C3 Session 18- Dealing with Trauma

Key Questions

WHO ever hurt, betrayed, or disappointed you? 

WHAT did the person that hurt, betrayed, or disappointed you used to represent in your life? Describe an emotion.

WHERE were the people that were supposed to comfort you from this hurt, betrayal, or disappointment?

WHY do you think at times you choose to sit with bad thoughts?

WHEN you write or talk about your trauma where in your body do you feel it?

HOW were bad experiences handled when you were a child?

Instruction: Think back to these times in your life and what stood out to you. Something that happened or just an overwhelming feeling or emotion you carried at the time and what may have caused it. It's your Timeline, write your story.

"A Letter to Myself Timeline"

(sample)

    AGE SOMETHING THAT STOOD OUT

 1 - 5 yrs.old You will be molested and no one will do anything about it. Stay strong it never happens again.

 6-10 yrs.old Most of the time you will feel and be alone and neglected. You will always feel uncared for and unimportant. Don't worry this builds your resilience, you will need it for the times ahead.

11-15 yrs.old Stay close to GOD and keep building a strong relationship with him. Your faith will carry you far. Just keep believing. 

16-20 yrs.old It's a lot, a job, home, husband, and kids, but still haven't been parented. Confused and angry. Faith and Focus. Alone and building. You know what needs to be done and YOU WILL get it done. Yes, by the grace of GOD!

21-25 yrs.old Feeling depressed all the time and I have no one to confide in. Focus on your work.

Now write your story and answer the questions below. 

Timeline Questions

• What were some turning points?

• Do you see patterns in your life?

• What VESPM beliefs may you be holding on to that may need to change?

• In what order would you like to address your VESPM health? 

Self-Reflection Points

• When your trust has been betrayed it causes trauma, a deeply distressing or disturbing experience, and your senses and emotions are unsure how to react because your reality is now different from what you once believed to be true.

• Unresolved trauma can often lead to unforgiveness furthering the traumatic experience.

• Sometimes, how a situation is dealt with can be the true cause of the trauma. Feeling like no one cares is the underlying feeling of abandonment.

• If you constantly wonder why this happening to you, you will not consider the countless others it has also happened to.

• You may want to hide your feelings of trauma due to the physical effects you don't want to feel when talking about it.

• Be present when those memories come up, acknowledge your reaction, and remember any past experience can only be a memory or a thought. You are in control now. You are safe.

• Only you have the power to activate those past feelings.

• What you choose to focus on daily is your choice.

Q - Did this session teach you how your past experiences can help you make wiser, more rational decisions?

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